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<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@fasterthanlime" class="u-url mention">@<span>fasterthanlime</span></a></span> Really the biggest realization I’ve had recently is:</p><p>Bad things are usually not as bad and terrible and catastrophic as I feared they would be.</p><p>Some are life-altering, but not necessarily for the worst!</p>
<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@fasterthanlime" class="u-url mention">@<span>fasterthanlime</span></a></span> had a conversation with my therapist about crises recently (because having a kid is technically a huge crisis). The result of a crisis can be either growth or a regression, and moving stuff into the "not unfathomably bad" category definitely is growth 💪</p>
<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@fasterthanlime" class="u-url mention">@<span>fasterthanlime</span></a></span> It’s funny because depending on your childhood, reading this, you’re either going “why would ever conceal your feelings” or “why would you ever reveal your feelings”. If you’re the former, have patience with the latter 🥲❤️</p>
<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@fasterthanlime" class="u-url mention">@<span>fasterthanlime</span></a></span> Re: “negotiating” the past, it’s a toxic mode of communication where instead of admitting what happened, you gradually minimize it until it no longer feels worth discussing. Two can play at that game, avoiding conflict for years until it all blows up.</p>
<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://donotsta.re/users/mei" class="u-url mention">@<span>mei</span></a></span> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://mastodon.social/@wingo" class="u-url mention">@<span>wingo</span></a></span> you're fucked lol</p><p>there is no way to defend against this</p><p>Peak Linux Design</p>
<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://mastodon.social/@whitequark" class="u-url mention">@<span>whitequark</span></a></span> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://mastodon.social/@wingo" class="u-url mention">@<span>wingo</span></a></span> it would be kind of defensible if the scanf string / printf string were standardized (across languages) and also part of the documentation. But even then forwards compatibility is a PITA.</p>
<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@fasterthanlime" class="u-url mention">@<span>fasterthanlime</span></a></span> In a way going through divorce was healing, because all the pressure was off and we could just clearly state all the things that had happened, their consequences, the plan ahead etc. Just like I enjoyed being stung: it’s bad, but not “unfathomably” bad</p>
<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@fasterthanlime" class="u-url mention">@<span>fasterthanlime</span></a></span> I think as a kid I learned: if I’m honest about what I did I get punished for it. If I’m honest about what other people did, they stop talking to me. Easy solution: just be in denial about all of it, nobody did me wrong, what I did was’t that bad, no need to talk.</p>