<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@fasterthanlime" class="u-url mention">@<span>fasterthanlime</span></a></span> Re: “negotiating” the past, it’s a toxic mode of communication where instead of admitting what happened, you gradually minimize it until it no longer feels worth discussing. Two can play at that game, avoiding conflict for years until it all blows up.</p>